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Before we have language for it, we are already building an inner world — a map of who we are, what we can expect from others, and how safe it is to need. Our inner world, unconciously, influences our current lives, in how secure and stable we feel and impacts our mood, anxiety, self esteem and relationship patterns.
That map is drawn in our earliest relationships: in what we learned about whether our needs were welcome, whether the people who mattered would stay, whether we were too much or not quite enough. These weren’t conclusions we reasoned our way to. They were adaptations — ways of surviving a relational world that didn’t always feel safe. And they don’t stay in childhood. They travel with us into every significant relationship since.
Attachment-based therapy is a depth-oriented psychodynamic approach that works directly with this inner world. It understands that early bonds shape not just how we relate to others, but who we believe ourselves to be — and that those beliefs, formed below the level of conscious thought, can be made visible, understood, and gradually changed.
View a picture of your relational world — past and present. What patterns keep recurring? What feelings arise in closeness or conflict? What do you find yourself doing to feel safe in relationships, even when those strategies are costing you something? Slowly, what has been unconscious begins to come into view.
Much of what we carry in our relational lives has roots we haven’t examined. Together, we trace how your current experiences connect to earlier ones — not to assign blame, but to understand. The process of linking past to present is where real insight lives. It changes the meaning of your experience, and meaning is where change begins.
Early attachment wounds are coded in the body and in the nervous system, not only in the mind — and they respond not just to insight but to experience. As you feel genuinely understood, held with consistency, and responded to without judgment, something shifts at a felt level.
Discover how psychodynamic attachment based therapy in Vancouver can help you feel more connected to yourself and others.
Psychodynamic psychotherapy is the only type of therapy that does not frame you in a box, but attempts to understand you with all your uniqueness.
Over time, people often find that:
Many of the patterns that bring people to therapy were once intelligent adaptations — ways of maintaining connection, avoiding hurt, or carrying responsibilities that once felt necessary.
Over time, these strategies can begin to limit your freedom in relationships.
In therapy, we explore these patterns with curiosity rather than judgment. Often, change begins when long-standing expectations about relationships are gently challenged by a different experience.
What you will find in our work together is a space that is:
• thoughtful
• emotionally grounded
• attentive to complexity
I focus on your goals and plans.
Working with me
Individual sessions are $165 for 55 minutes. Most extended health plans cover sessions with a Registered Clinical Counsellor — check with your provider to confirm your coverage.
Not sure if we’re a good fit? Start with a free 15-minute call — no commitment required.
The patterns you live inside were learned — which means they can be unlearned.
If you’re ready to understand what’s been running beneath the surface, I’d be glad to begin that conversation with you.